March is a hard month for all sorts of reasons. First, we’re all waiting for spring, and this year it’s the spring that will just…not…get…here. Then, as the month goes on, for me it’s my parent’s anniversary and what-would-be my Dad’s birthday. The anniversaries and holidays and memories never stop. No one is ever gone - somehow they find a way to be more here than ever before. Life and love and regret is weird like that.
I did the photo above (Regret) 24 days before my Dad passed away. (I like to think of it as ‘graduating’ instead of passing away, by the way). It’s still one of my all-time favourite pieces because it reminds me of him (he was my biggest fan!) and because it’s so raw and honest as to how I was feeling then (and still do, now). My entire life, I knew my Dad as someone who raised birds - pigeons, exotic birds, doves - which is where the falling feathers come into the photo. The rest is pretty self explanatory!
I need to Rumpelstiltskin my attitude and turn some straw into gold - turn regret into gratitude, turn sadness into celebration, channel devastation into inspiration, distill loss into love. I think that would be the greatest tribute to my biggest fan.
And the world in it’s chaos doesn’t stop for your sadness or your grieving. The world is polite for awhile, but forgets quickly - and we’re all equally guilty of it. We all move on from our empathy for others. The trick is moving on from our sympathy for ourselves, while the world spins madly on. And if you can make a little art while you’re at it - that’s the best eulogy you can give someone you love.
Words are a tricky thing. Typing them is easier than saying them, that’s for sure. And sometimes NOT saying them is harder yet. That’s why I loved this quote by the novelist Orson Scott Card. Interpret it how you like, but I believe the true value of ‘words’ is found in between what you say.
I had originally thought this pic "The Weight of Words" was going to be in a sun-lit field with orbs of light and warmth and rays of sunlight. Then, like usual, it all went in it’s own direction - and literally laid itself on the table. Words work the same way. Sometimes your brain thinks one thing but what comes out of your mouth is the cruelest deception of what you intended. Words can be dangerous if you use them correctly - and they can be deadly if you don’t. What you don’t say…can do more damage than what you do.
You can bundle up all your secrets and put them in a diary. You can unravel them all and spill them into social media for the world to see. The weight of words is determined by how you use them, or don’t use them. They can take on the lightness of air and ride the wind, or sink like stones into an abyss. You can craft them into a literary embrace that can transcend miles and decades and warm whoever receives them, or whittle them into an arrow that can pierce the hardest heart.
So, choose your words and silence wisely: words are weighed on the scale of your heart, too.
First of all, his art and approach is genius. He creates a Newspaper Blackout Poem daily on Instagram.
I am always reminding myself that I don’t need to look at the entire staircase - but instead, just the first step. Then the next step. And so on. And eventually, you’ve climbed all those stairs. His piece “Something small, every day: How to make more work this year" resonates with me because of the concept of a 365 Day Project I started once up a time (which I discovered is next to impossible because of the time it takes for me to create the type of pics I do…or does it have to? Could this be a chance to simply things and maybe even make them better in the process?…hmm…)
The trick is “creating a chain” and doing that “something small, every day” - and it will in turn create itself. Simple and profound advice. What’s your “something small” you could do every day to create something big?
Waiting For My Ship To Come In #patience #art #time #wait #c’mon already #lake #water #awesome #love #man
Getting ready for some meetings with new couples at @rsstudiosphoto #wedding @vintagemarqueelights #love (at Renaissance Studios Photography)
I wake up every day with this song in my head, and I finally sat down to watch the video this morning…wow. Music inspires me so much and it’s always as though my heart makes it’s own videos for songs I love, so when I finally do see the ‘official’ video I’m usually confused or disappointed because it’s not at all like what I imagined. ”Say Something”, by A Great Big World & Christina Aguilera however was such a happy (and so very sad) surprise.
I don’t even know what I could create to do justice to that song, it tugs at heart strings that I didn’t even know I had. The line “Anywhere I would’ve followed you” reminds me of Death Cab For Cutie's "I Will Follow You Into The Dark" that inspired my pic below, "Into The Dark" with the lyrics:
I just can’t separate visual art, and music. You should be able to look at a photo and hear a soundtrack, or hear a song, and see an image. And sometimes, a song gets stuck inside me (in a good way, not a "What Does The Fox Say" sorta way)…and I think that’s usually because you’re supposed to listen to what it’s telling you. I think the hardest part of that song to hear is "I’m giving up on you". Ugh. Those five words get you in the gut. Florence & The Machine has a way of doing that to me - with EVERY SINGLE SONG. Her song "Leave My Body" inspired this pic below, “The Abduction”. I took the “Leave My Body” idea pretty literally, but am thrilled with how it turned out (and it was fun using Clint as a model for this one).
So, this weekend, I’m going to try and get “Say Something” out of my head, and into a photo, and actually “Do Something”.
I don’t necessarily see it coming together as two separate individuals like in the video, but more of an inner battle with yourself…it’s easy to give up on yourself, too. Your conscience can spend a lot of the day rattling you into action, while your hands keep busy deceiving the best of intentions. I’m even interested to see how this one turns out.
"Yes I had fluff on my butt that made me look like I had a bunny tail." #bostonterrier #bt #dog #cute #puppy
Search and rescue mission by Ralphie for a piece of rogue kibble #bostonterrier #dog #bt #cute #puppy
Best seat in the house. #bt #bostonterrier #dog #isitonyourhead
Rupert thinks the new lounge setup is pretty awesome. #BT #bostonterrier #dog #cute
From The Bridge Band surreal photography by Shawn Van Daele
The day after the #circus left town. “No one ever told me that #fear looked so much like grief”.
Fishing For Memories #fishing #memories #night #moon #man #water #awesome #instagood #photoshop
Little Marco can use your prayers. He’s battling #cancer - AGAIN. After a heart transplant AND beating cancer once already. Now it’s in his airways, spinal fluid and he has 6 spots o. His brain. #love #pray #hope #courage. #lion #instagood #bestoftheday #beadonor